| Location | Swinstead |
| Age | 68 years |
| Date of Birth | 12/03/1940 |
| Date of Death | 08/01/2009 |
| Visitors | 3,209 since 28/01/2009 |
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Brian was a devoted husband, father, father-in-law and grandad. He and I had been together since 1971 and believed we would be together for a very long time to come. Brian had suffered for the last two and a half years following a third hernia operation which failed and subsequently brought with it complications. Brian was eventually diagnosed as having a very rare genetic deficiency which caused severe liver disease. Due to the severity of the liver disease he was assessed twice for a liver transplant. However, due to the complications of the failed hernia, the transplant could not be done, nor could the hernia be repaired due to the damaged liver. We were informed it would be extremely dangerous for him to have anaesthetic. We were in a Catch 22 situation, no liver transplant and no hernia repair. The medical professionals just didn't know what to do! I could only reassure him that he would be OK due to the fact that he was on various medications to stop the build up of ascites fluid which kept accumulating in his liver. To this day I still cannot understand why he was so suddenly taken away from us. He was taken into Grantham Hospital on 27th December 2008 following a leakage from his tummy and was then transferred to QMC in Nottingham. I could not believe it when one of the Consultants informed me on 7th January 2009 that they were stopping all his treatment and were making him as comfortable as they could. I was completely devastated and couldn't believe what I was hearing. I thought he was just being treated for an infection. I asked how long he had left, only to be told by the Consultant "well I'm not a fortune teller but weeks". How was I going to tell our 3 daughters that their Dad was going to die? I was so distressed and just wanted the whole thing to have been a dream. Unfortunately it wasn't. The next morning (8th January 2009) I got a phonecall at 7.29 a.m from QMC who informed me that Brian had had a "turn" at 5.00 am. The doctor had been called and it was suggested that we should go to the hospital. We were stuck in traffic and eventually arrived at QMC at 9.25 am. Unfortunately we were too late, Brian passed away at 9.10 am. It broke our hearts because we weren't with him when he died and didn't get the chance to say goodbye. We should have been there with him! Why couldn't we have been called to the hospital sooner? Brian and I had been together for 37 very happy years and he was a truly wonderful and popular man. He always put his family first and gave us everything he possibly could. When I had visited him on the day before he died, he said "I love you so much, tell the girls I love them and no crying, I will always keep a smile on my face". Those words will be locked within our hearts forever. Nite, nite and God Bless from your loving wife Ann and daughters Frances, Sharon and Kimberly xxxxxxxxxxxx
★⋰☆ Happy Birthday Brian ★⋰☆
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This day comes with tears and pain, as the day you left us we relive again. We treasure the memories you left behind, but it's no consolation for the heartache we find. Some may think you've been forgotten, when at times they see us smile, but little they see the heartache thats with us all the while.
Love and missing you always, Frances xxx
Time passes................
Even though time passes, each day I always find a quiet place to be alone with my thoughts of you. You will always have a special place in my heart.
Sleep tight my darling, until we meet again xxxx
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you did not go alone
Part of me went with you,
the day God called you home.
A million times I've thought of you
A million times I've cried
If loving could have saved you
You would have never died
Forgive me Lord, I'll always weep
For the father I loved but could not keep.
Love always Sharon xxx
One Year Ago Today...... 9.10 am
Where's the year gone, its slipped away
The hours seem to blur, night into day
They say it gets easier as the months pass by,
why then when you're mentioned, do tears sting my eye's
Such a very special man, the world at his feet,
places to see, people to meet.
It all got too much, nothing went right,
You couldn't find the strength to stay here and fight.
I'll never cease to miss you or ask the reason why
you who deserved to live, should be the one to die
I think of you so often and talk about you still
You'll never be forgotten Brian,at least by me you never will
Love and miss you always xxxxxxxxx
Love you Dad.....
We're never ready to say goodbye
To someone we hold dear.
If it were up to us, dear Dad,
We'd always keep you here.
But God has reasons of his own
And plans we cannot know.
And these are always for our good,
Though it may seem not so.
Our arms are empty and our hearts
Are filled with tears and grief,
For we who loved each day with you,
Now find those days too brief.
Yet if we could only heaven see,
We'd know you're happy there,
And we would never call you back
When such great joy you share.
And so we'll trust you to God's great care,
And know some day, once more,
We'll hold you to our hearts again
When we reach heaven's shore.
Love and miss you always Dad.
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hi brian cant believe it is a year on thursday since you were taken away from us. i hope you are with jodie and mark i am sure she will be with you please look after her for me and give her a big hug we all miss you.i am looking after ann for you jodie will be pleased we are always together.love ethelxxx
Christmas Thoughts..
Just wanted to say a big Merry Christmas Dad, will never be the same without you, but we will remember all the great Christmas times with you, all the fun, smiles and laughter.. Miss you so very much. Love you
Dad, some days I hear your voice
and turn to see your face;
Yet in my turning...it seems
the sound has been erased.
Dad, who will I turn to for answers
when life does not make sense;
Who will be there to hold me close
when the pieces just don't fit.
Oh, Dad, if I could turn back time
and once more hear your voice;
I'd tell you that out of all the dads
you would still be my choice.
Please always know I love you
and no one can take your place;
Years may come and go
but your memory will never be erased.
I Love you so very much,
And not a day goes by without you in my thoughts,
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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