| Location | Swinstead |
| Age | 68 years |
| Date of Birth | 12/03/1940 |
| Date of Death | 08/01/2009 |
| Visitors | 1,013 since 28/01/2009 |
| Creator |
Brian was a devoted husband, father, father-in-law and grandad. He and I had been together since
1971 and believed we would be together for a very long time to come. Brian had suffered for the
last two and a half years following a third hernia operation which failed and subsequently brought
with it complications. Brian was eventually diagnosed as having a very rare genetic deficiency
which caused severe liver disease. Due to the severity of the liver disease he was assessed twice
for a liver transplant. However, due to the complications of the failed hernia, the transplant could
not be done, nor could the hernia be repaired due to the damaged liver. We were informed it would be
extremely dangerous for him to have anaesthetic. We were in a Catch 22 situation, no liver
transplant and no hernia repair. The medical professionals just didn't know what to do! I could
only reassure him that he would be OK due to the fact that he was on various medications to stop the
build up of ascites fluid which kept accumulating in his liver. To this day I still cannot
understand why he was so suddenly taken away from us. He was taken into Grantham Hospital on 27th
December 2008 following a leakage from his tummy and was then transferred to QMC in Nottingham. I
could not believe it when one of the Consultants informed me on 7th January 2009 that they were
stopping all his treatment and were making him as comfortable as they could. I was completely
devastated and couldn't believe what I was hearing. I thought he was just being treated for an
infection. I asked how long he had left, only to be told by the Consultant "well I'm not a fortune
teller but weeks". How was I going to tell our 3 daughters that their Dad was going to die? I was
so distressed and just wanted the whole thing to have been a dream. Unfortunately it wasn't. The
next morning (8th January 2009) I got a phonecall at 7.29 a.m from QMC who informed me that Brian
had had a "turn" at 5.00 am. The doctor had been called and it was suggested that we should go to
the hospital. We were stuck in traffic and eventually arrived at QMC at 9.25 am. Unfortunately we
were too late, Brian passed away at 9.10 am. It broke our hearts because we weren't with him when
he died and didn't get the chance to say goodbye. We should have been there with him! Why couldn't
we have been called to the hospital sooner? Brian and I had been together for 37 very happy years
and he was a truly wonderful and popular man. He always put his family first and gave us everything
he possibly could. When I had visited him on the day before he died, he said "I love you so much,
tell the girls I love them and no crying, I will always keep a smile on my face". Those words will
be locked within our hearts forever. Nite, nite and God Bless from your loving wife Ann and
daughters Frances, Sharon and Kimberly xxxxxxxxxxxx
A little prayer ......
I said a prayer for you today and know God must have heard.
I felt the answer in my heart, although He spoke no word!
I asked for happiness for you in all things great and small.
But it was for his loving care, I prayed for most of all.
Love you forever - Ann xxx
Miss you so much....
Dear Dad in Heaven
I sit here and i ponder how very much
I'd like to talk to you today
There are so many things
That we didn't get to say
I know how much you care for me
And how much I care for you,
And each time that I think of you
I know you'll miss me too.
An angel came and called your name
And took you by the hand and said
Your place was ready in Heaven, far above . . .
And you had to leave behind, all though you dearly loved
You had so much to live for, you had so much to do . . .
It still seemed impossible, that God was taking you.
And though your life on earth is past, in Heaven it starts anew
You'll live for all eternity, just as God has promised you.
And though you've walked through Heaven's gate
We are never far apart
For each time that we think of you,
You're right here, deep with-in our hearts.
xxxxxxx
Missing you .......
Hello my darling, me and Fran have been to church this afternoon and said prayers for you and lit a candle sending you all our love and thinking of the happy memories we have of you, today and forever. Love you always xxxx
Time passes so quickly .....
A spray of roses just for you, sprinkled with teardrops instead of dew and in the middle, a little forget-me-not, to say my darling Brian, I have not forgot. Love you always Ann xxxx
Love you xxx
Everyone has their time
But why did yours have to come so soon?
There are so many people in the world
So why did God have to pick you?
They say things like this make you stronger
But how can that be?
I feel so weak inside It all feels like a dream
I didn't get to see you
You passed away too soon
But I feel you watching over me
And someday I'll see you again
xxx
Happy Anniversary
Hello Dad,
Well today is yours and mums wedding anniversary!! I know that you're not here to celebrate but I know that you will be with mum today.
We made sure she had a lovely first birthday without you, we all miss you so much! especially when it comes to family birthdays and celebrations, Christmas will be hard without you but I know that you wouldn't want us to be sad....
Always thinking of you dad....
Love and miss you more than ever xxxxxxx
8 months today........
I looked towards the clouds today and for a moment saw your face. I wondered just where you have gone, with hope it's a better place. Did you show yourself to me today to tell me you're alright? or was it just a daydream playing tricks upon my sight? I will always feel the void inside because you are not here but each new thought you send my way lets me know that you are near. So until my journey nears its end and I hear the angels sing, I'll face each new day as it comes and live off the love you bring. Love and miss you so much - Ann xxxx
The years will fall like autumn leaves upon his memory.
The touch of Time will ease the heartache, gently, tenderly...
It cannot always be like this; the agony will cease.
And I, resigned, shall find at last - my healing and my peace.
There comes a time when grief must end and sorrow pass away.
Never will he be forgotten - but there'll come a day -
when I shall remember him without a stab of pain -
happy in the secret knowledge that we'll meet again.
(Patience Strong)
Missing you Brian .....
As angels keep their watch up there I please ask God to let you know, that I down here do not forget I loved you and miss you so. Forever in my heart xxx
Missing you...
Hello Dad,
Well not one second goes by that I don't think about you and miss you, sometimes I sit here and wonder what you are doing and if you're ok. I still have moments when I think it hasn't sunk in yet that you are gone but I know that you are out of pain and you're suffering has gone.
I hope that you are smiling down on us and I know you are our guardian angel now forever.
Miss and love you so much
Kimmy xxxxxxxxx
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